Flip the Script Anthology: Gorgeous Cover Reveal

Flip The Script Cover Book

In November of 2014, Lost Daughters at the helm of editor, Rosita Gonzalez, launched the #flipthescript movement, aimed at highlighting the perspectives of adult adoptees, which reached 30 million households in 30 days. This November, Lost Daughters editors Amanda Transue-Woolston and Rosita Gonzalez partner with Diane Christian from The An-Ya Project to bring you this incredible movement in book form. Recently, we released the image of the gorgeous cover we selected as the face of this upcoming anthology. Stay tuned!

An-Ya and Her Diary & The An-Ya Project: Dear Wonderful You, Letters to Adopted & Fostered Youth (now available)

From the An-Ya Project website…
Dear Wonderful You, Letters to Adopted & Fostered Youth is a powerful book filled with thoughtful and inspiring letters. This anthology was written by a global community of adult adoptees and adults who were fostered. Each letter was penned to the upcoming generation of adopted and fostered youth.
The mission of Dear Wonderful You is for all adopted or fostered youth to feel embraced and guided by the incredible letters contained inside. The writers’ want every young reader to know they have a network of support who “get it,” “get them,” and have been in their shoes.

Now Available in Ebook & Paperback


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Dear Wonderful You

Lost Daughters: Writing Adoption from a Place of Empowerment and Peace, Now Available!

I am proud to announce that Lost Daughters: Writing Adoption from a Place of Empowerment and Peace is now available in ebook format with print copies forthcoming, on Amazon.com.

This anthology, boasting nearly 30 Lost Daughters authors, was edited by Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston, Julie Stromberg, Karen Pickell, and Jennifer Anastasi. It features a collection of writings aimed to bring readers the perspectives of adopted women and highlight their strength, resiliency, and wisdom.  We thank CQT Media and Publishing and Land of Gazillion Adoptees for publishing this incredible book.
The beautiful cover art of painted flowers was provided by Carlynne Hershberger. Proceeds from this anthology will be donated to a charity to be determined.
“Moving beyond racial, ethnic and professional silos frequently observed in adoption, Lost Daughters brings us together to witness the courage, strength and amazement of a diverse group of women who represent the true fabric of adoption.”  —Susan Harris O’Connor, MSW, National Speaker, Solo Performance Artist, Activist Author, The Harris Narratives: An Introspective Study of a Transracial Adoptee

“These are brave, strong essays written from the heart by talented, courageous women who pull no punches. Anyone not already familiar with the inner ramifications of being adopted to the adoptee will be blown away.” –Lorraine Dusky, first mother, author of Birthmark, founding board member of ALMA, and founder of [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum.

I thank Lost Daughters readers for their support, and our authors for their amazing contributions to this beautiful and powerful work.  Please visit the book listing at Amazon.com here.

An-Ya and Her Diary & The An-Ya Project: PERPETUAL CHILD: ADULT ADOPTEE ANTHOLOGY (now available)

From the An-Ya Project website….

Now Available in Print via all Amazon channels…
Dismantling the Stereotype
Contributing Writers: Laura Dennis, Mei-Mei Akwai Ellerman, Lynn Grubb, Lee Herrick, Jennifer Bao Yu “Precious Jade” Jue-Steuck, Karen Pickell, Matthew Salesses, Lucy Chau Lai-Tuen Sheen, Nicky Sa-eun Schildkraut, Julie Stromberg, April Topfer, Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston, Angela Tucker, Catana Tully

Early Praise for The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist by Mary O’Leary Wiley, PhD, ABPP

“Written with the eye of a social worker and the perspective that only someone who has lived the life of adoption can bring, Amanda H. L. Transue-Woolston expresses herself in ways that are both individual and universal. The Declassified Adoptee reads with the power of a novel, yet provides a perspective that I have not yet seen in adoption literature or memoirs. She does this by sharing her own experiences as an adoptee and then broadening her lens to allow the reader to share a broader view of timeless issues in the adoption world. She tackles topics that some find difficult with deep insight, humor and sensitivity.

This book will be a very valuable resource to mental health practitioners, students, researchers, families and others who would like insight on the adoption experience. It is also a true gift to adult adoptees who will find their experiences validated and expressed in deeply profound ways. Thank you to The Declassified Adoptee for bringing us a remarkably current and fresh look at the experience of adoption.”
Mary O’Leary Wiley, PhD, ABPP
Licensed Psychologist in Independent Practice, Altoona, PA
Adoption therapist, researcher, author and Co-Chair of the Special Interest Group on Adoption Research and Practice in the Society of Counseling Psychology (a division of the American Psychological Association).

Early Praise for the Lost Daughters Anthology: Susan Harris O’Connor, MSW

Lost Daughters provides us with a viewing of brilliance, social justice and activism. Moving beyond racial, ethnic and professional silos frequently observed in adoption, Lost Daughters brings us together to witness the courage, strength and amazement of a diverse group of women who represent the true fabric of adoption. This anthology, a collection of stories written by adult adoptees, is a must read for clinical and social service professionals and all those touched by and/or interested in learning about adoption journeys.

Susan Harris O’Connor, MSW
National Speaker, Solo Performance Artist, Activist
Author, The Harris Narratives: An Introspective Study of a Transracial Adoptee

Early Praise for the Lost Daughters Anthology: Lorraine Dusky

Lost Daughters Anthology is a tough book for mothers who relinquished to read because whatever we may have told ourselves about the “good” reasons to let our children be adopted, these poignant, sad, moving essays belie that with the sheer force of a body blow. I found myself with tears in my eyes as soon as I started reading, and they didn’t totally dry up until long after the last page.

Taken in one gulp these writers remind us that being adopted is the singular aspect of their lives out of which everything else flows—just as it is the opposite side of the coin is for first mothers like myself: birthdays, family trees, motherhood, familiar traits, loss. Julie Stromberg writes about how comfortable it is to be with another adoptee because they can talk to each other in ways they cannot to others; Michelle Lahti writes her son’s assignment to do a family tree was more painful for her than him; Elaine Penn remarks on the moment she first heard someone say about her daughter: that’s where her dimple comes from—and referring to Elaine, the baby’s mother; Von tells how she found her love of cooking in both sets of natural families; Nikki Mairs-Cayer Pike talks about the scary, exhilarating moment she got the envelope with the name of her mother; Samantha Franklin sums up the experience of finding her first family: I am whole, no longer cut in half,” and elsewhere: “…We adoptees get mixed messages galore. We are a crisis, unwanted, abandoned orphans. Yet also chosen, special, lucky gifts. Our first mothers are told they are incapable, yet also heroic. Our very identities are “amended” to fulfill a role, and we’re expected to cut ourselves off completely…from the identity, heritage and family in which we were born.”
The book concludes with a longer essay by Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston, author of the highly regarded and popular The Declassified Adoptee blog, of being overwhelmed in a college course when she was asked to speak critically of her parents: “I did not want to admit that my parents are not perfect when I had already been so busy trying to prove to the world that they are perfect. Reunion, and everything that comes with it, was my choice and not a response to what some people might assume to be parenting failures.”
Brevity demands not including every writer here—though all deserve to be—for their selection in this superb collection covers the gamut of the adoptee experience in all its painful reality. The editors—Amanda Transue-Woolston, Julie Stromberg , Karen Pickell and Jennifer Anastasi –have chosen well.
These are brave, strong essays written from the heart by talented, courageous women who pull no punches. Anyone not already familiar with the inner ramifications of being adopted to the adoptee will be blown away. In a perfect world, I would make every legislator who has not voted for unsealing original birth certificates, every adoption facilitator who makes their living off adoptions, and every adoption attorney, every clergyman or woman who has suggested “adoption” to a desperate pregnant woman, every adoption worker sit down and read the book through in one afternoon. It would change the world.
Lorraine Dusky is the author of the first memoir from a first mother, Birthmark, published in 1979 to great controversy, or some would say, notoriety. A founding member of the board of ALMA, she has been involved in the adoption reform movement since the mid-Seventies.Her articles on adoption have appeared in Newsweek, Town & Country, Parent’s and numerous other publications. She is the founder of [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum, which she writes with Jane Edwards.

The Declassified Adoptee Book has been Published!

0bd5c-tdabookfrontI am so happy to announce that my book The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist was published on October 10, 2013 and is currently available as an eBook on Amazon.com.  Print copies will be sold on Amazon.com in November of this year.

This book project was something I had never dreamed of back when I started blogging 4.5 years ago.  4.5 years ago I did not know that I enjoyed writing; I did not realize that I really had anything to write about.  I embarked on this blogging journey in an effort to locate my original family.  The process of searching soon became symbolic of finding myself.  The process of unsealing my records soon became symbolic of unfolding myself as a person who was adopted as a child.  Writing moved me from connecting to my family, to connecting to myself, to connecting to the larger community.  The time you have spent reading my words has given my words meaning.  Reading your thoughts has been invaluable.

Having my words published in a book is a privilege and I do not take it lightly that my voice is able to be heard in this way when so many others are equally deserving–and more so.

I extend my heartfelt thanks to the blog readers who have encouraged me all of these years.  I thank my families by birth, marriage, and adoption for their support.  I thank my friends for their openness and willingness to hear my voice on adoption–a topic they are not readily familiar with.  I thank all those who have given me the opportunity to use my voice; who have believed in me.

I also extend my deepest appreciation to the individuals who helped this book become a reality: Kevin Vollmers from Land of Gazillion Adoptees, Adam Chau from CQT Media and Publishing, Carlynne Hershberger from Hersberger & Huff Studios, Julie Stromberg from Life, Adopted, and to the foreword author, JaeRan Kim.

I hope to see you at the Re-Framing the Adoption Discourse conference held by the APRC on November 16, 2013 in St. Paul, MN (register & hotel here) where I will be selling and signing my book along with the Lost Daughters anthology (several fellow Lost Daughters will be there to sign the anthology too!).  The Lost Daughters anthology will be published in November.  I will also be speaking on the policy panel for the conference.  Keep an eye out for the second anthology I’ve co-edited, Perpetual Child: Dismantling the Stereotype coming out this winter.


Pre-Release Review by Susan Harris O’Connor, MSW, National Speaker, Performance Artivcst, & Author

Amanda H. L. Transue-Woolston’s book of essays is heartfelt and brilliantly written. It is an original piece of work that sheds light to many of the core issues with being an adoptee. In her unique way of holding her experience, Amanda illustrates the power of one’s story; as she moves from the personal, to the role of educator, to that of an adoption activist. The Declassified Adoptee is a must read for all!
Susan Harris O’Connor, MSW
National Speaker and Solo Performance Artist
Author, The Harris Narratives: An Introspective Study of a Transracial Adoptee

Pre-Release Review by Trish Ortiz, LCSW, Therapist for At-Risk Youth

In The Declassified Adoptee, adoptee and social worker Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston unpacks a myriad of issues that are remarkably personal and intrinsically important to the adoption community, and, indeed, to society-at-large. Transue-Woolston tackles difficult topics, including the circumstances of her own conception, with grace. While she is unflinching in the candor with which she discusses the world of adoption, the author manages to adeptly navigate its varied landscape without passing judgment upon those with differing experiences.

An inherent respect for the individual, unique narratives of every adoptee is woven throughout The Declassified Adoptee. Transue-Woolston is careful to clearly communicate to the reader that she is sharing her own narrative, and her own personal purview; at the same time, however, she successfully honors a broad diversity of adoptees’ experiences, never rejecting the stories of those who have had experiences dissimilar to her own. In this collection of essays, Transue-Woolston’s voice is both sensitive and candid, and her writing style produces a narrative that is accessible to – and that should resonate with – all members of the adoption community. We are privileged to accompany her as she navigates the challenging terrain of adoption, eloquently exploring and deconstructing the many emotional spaces that adoptees, and those who love them, occupy at various times in their journeys. As the reader is provided with a front row seat to the lived experience of this adoptee, The Declassified Adoptee persuasively illustrates that the emotional process of the adoptee is fluid, not linear. The curtains are parted to reveal a full spectrum of emotions, from pain to joy to rage.

In addition to exploring the emotional experiences of adoptees on an individual level, The Declassified Adoptee also provides an articulate, even-handed critique of a system that is flawed, without condemning individual participants in that system. Transue-Woolston is a champion for the marginalized, and seeks to increase transparency in adoption practices. She urges freedom from the secrecy that has long plagued adoption, and continues today in many cases.

As an adoptive parent, I urge all prospective parents, adoptees, and original and adoptive families to read The Declassified Adoptee for a comprehensive, sensitive deconstruction of the diverse perspectives that may be involved. As a social worker and therapist, I highly recommend the addition of this valuable resource to the bookshelves of all who work within the various sectors of the adoption profession, as well as mental health professionals who work with members of the adoption community in their practice.

Trish Ortiz, LCSW is an adoptive parent and the Clinical Director of a family therapy program for at-risk youth in New York City.