Pre-Release Review by Laura Dennis, Author of "Adopted Reality, A Memoir"

If you’ve ever wondered, What are these adoptees complaining about?
If you’ve ever thought, Hey, they grew up in stable adoptive families, and got to reunite with their origins, what’s the big deal now?
If you ever supposed that adoptees are treated equally under the law, and that “we’ve gotten better” with regards to the stigma and secrecy that permeated previous generations of adoption …
This book is for you.
With clear, succinct language—resorting to neither sanctimony nor sentimentality, Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston’s The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist, provides an understandable context for the change needed in adoption as an institution. In this compilation of writings from her blog, the author uses personal anecdotes to highlight the need for sympathy and understanding for the adoptee, while arguing logically and unapologetically for specific change within the system.
And in a few key articles, she even made this jaded adoptee shed a few tears. In “A Letter to my Prospective Adoptive Mother—What a little baby might have wanted to say,” Amanda encapsulates the heartache and frustration for the closed records adoptee and the mom trying to raise her:
Then, with no family medical history, I will discover a tumor. I will cry for you sick with pain and anesthesia when I wake up from surgery. You will ask God “why” and I will be okay. (39)
For adoptees and non-adoptees alike, this anthology will answer questions you never knew you had and clarify issues about which you always felt strongly. It’s time for social justice for adoptees, and this book is must-read educational preparation.
—Laura Dennis, B.A./M.F.A. Dance Performance (in a whole other life), adoption advocate blogger, wife and mom, and author of Adopted Reality, A Memoir.

Pre-Release Review by Damian Adams, Research Scientist

“Within the words that Amanda writes lays the truthfulness of an adoption story, her adoption story and experience. It is these narratives that provide the reader with an in depth view and analysis of what it may be like to be adopted. This is extremely important as no other person will know what it is like to be adopted except an adoptee, and while each adoptee’s experience will be different, every story is valid and a real outcome of an institutionalised process of both family severance and construction. It is only through truly listening to narratives such as these can society better understand and empathise with adoptees, but more importantly learn from their experiences and improve the current paradigm. I have found Amanda’s approach to both the analysis of her own adoption as well as the adoption process to be insightful and full of critical analysis while taking a sensitive approach that will endear this work to the reader. I am sure that every reader will learn something from this book just as I have.”

–Damian Adams, Research Scientist, donor conceived person, and advocate for the rights of children separated from their biological families.

Pre-Release Review by Diane René Christian, Author of "An-Ya and Her Diary"

In her mid twenties, shortly after the birth of her son, Amanda Transue-Woolston found herself in reunion with her biological mother. In those first emotional moments of reunion, Woolston was faced with the gutting task of unraveling lies and sifting through adoption laden secrets.

Woolston’s collection of essays, contained within The Declassified Adoptee, invites readers on a riveting and educational journey. It is a journey which flows seamlessly through turbid adoption issues, adoptee realities and some unexpected truths.

The Declassified Adoptee is a compact book covering a broad scope. As an adoptee, Woolston offers a poignant narrow personal lens. As a social worker, she widens the lens and offers an enlightening and comprehensive point of view. Written with a tender hand, this book speaks with clarity and strength about the complexities of an adoptee’s life and the complexities inherent in adoption.

In the opening of The Declassified Adoptee, Woolston writes, “I am pro-human.” Her powerful and moving words will cause readers to reflect on what it means to be humane.

Highly recommended reading for anyone touched by adoption… and beyond.

-Diane René Christian, author of An-Ya and Her Diary, adoptive mother, and founder of the AN-YA Project

Pre-Release Review by Joy Lieberthal Rho, LCSW-R

“I am tremendously grateful for Amanda Woolston and her declassified declaration proclaimed in this book of her personal essays. The Declassified Adoptee is a challenging, beautifully woven narrative of how adoption has impacted a life. While I subscribe to the idea that no two adoptees have the same story, Amanda was able to encapsulate so many of the challenges of being a whole person with a history full of holes, lies, misunderstandings, half-truths, stereotypes and other people’s fears imposed on the adopted one. So neatly organized, Amanda was able to give the non-adopted and the adopted the full breadth of experiences and feelings that are entwined in the journey to self discovery. Amanda shows how she tackled the toughest and most sensitive issues in adoption with grace and compassion all the while pushing the reader to stretch commonly held beliefs on who is right and who has rights. I sincerely hope that fellow adoptees, adoptive parents, adoption professionals, child advocates and legislators alike read Amanda’s words.”

–Joy Lieberthal Rho, therapist, social worker, author, and speaker

Pre-Release Review by Lorraine Dusky, Author of "Birthmark" and First Mother Forum

“Amanda Woolston is a voice of understanding and reason in the complicated, difficult and often painful world of adoption reform and reunion–not only that, she is a forceful writer exploring topics with sanity and insight that adopted individuals–as well as first mothers–deal with on a near daily basis. Amanda is a breath of fresh air for all of us and as a voice on the topic we share, I cherish her dearly. Her essays in The Declassified Adoptee will be read and appreciated by many for years to come.”

–Lorraine Dusky, author of Birthmark and blogger at First Mother Forum.

Pre-Release Review by Sociologist Dr. Gretchen Sisson

Pre-Release Review of “The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist”

“Adoptees live at the intersection of political, moral, religious, and philosophical debates about how we, as a society, define family and self; their every day is shaped by an institution subject to the same cultural systems of privilege and hierarchy that influence all social institutions. This complexity takes root in the lived experiences of adoptees in moments both small and large: dealing with petty middle school bullying, facing a medical crisis, forging romantic relationships, holding one’s newborn son for the first time, having a well-meaning acquaintance ask a question or comment that one’s children look “just like you.” From addressing the experience of adoption — both on the sweeping social scale and the intimate, personal level — adoptees have found a generous, self-aware, and profoundly wise voice in Amanda Transue-Woolston and her collection of essays in The Declassified Adoptee. When discussing a flawed system that has fostered mistruths and secrecy, or the clumsy or mean-spirited questions that follow adoptees, or the politicization of adoption by those with little understanding of its impact on those living it, or her reconciliation with the story of her own conception, Woolston finds a framework that is graceful without being conciliatory, and sensitively diplomatic without being placating. In doing so, she criticizes a system without condemning individuals, and challenges us all to not only place adoption within its appropriate cultural context, but to listen to the stories of those most impacted as its own form of social justice activism.”

Gretchen Sisson, PhD is an adoption and reproductive health researcher with ANSIRH at the University of California, San Francisco.

Pre-Release Review by Maureen McCauley Evans, former Executive Director of Joint Council on International Children’s Services

“An unknowable number of stories exist in the world of adoption: compelling, inspiring, heartbreaking, provocative, introspective, poignant, and powerful. These words also describe Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston’s new book, “The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of An Adoption Activist.” Amanda is a calm, clear, thoughtful, lyrical storyteller. Like the best storytellers, she writes from her heart, leaving the reader with much to reflect on, much to mull over, much to savor and learn.

Amanda writes evocatively about her experiences as an adoptee, born in 1985, placed in foster care at 3 days old, officially adopted at 8 months old. Hers was a same race, closed adoption—though her first mother had been told it would be open. Amanda, after a lot of time and expense, has reunited with her first mother and several members of her original family. She remains closely connected with her adoptive family as well.
As the former executive director of 2 adoption agencies and an international adoption nonprofit organization, I believe that “The Declassified Adoptee” should be required reading for all prospective adoptive parents, for all adoptive parents, and for social workers and other professionals who work in any way with adoption. It should be required reading for all adoption agency executive directors, for those who sit on the board of directors for adoption agencies, and for those who provide any and all post-adoption services.
As an adoptive parent, I believe that “The Declassified Adoptee” would have provided me with both insights and icebreakers when talking about adoption with my children when they were growing up. I plan to share the book with each of my now-young adult children; though the details of their experiences may vary, I have no doubts Amanda’s story, and her insights, will resonate with them.
Like Amanda and most other adoptees (whether from the US or internationally adopted, whether adopted as infants or older children, whether adopted through private or public agencies), each of my children has dealt with the complex realities in adoption that Amanda writes about: trust, bullying, identity, truth, fantasy, secrecy, loss, grief, confusion, laws, lies, and love.
Her brief, insightful essays reflect the challenges that adoptees face: not knowing when to ask what questions, being startled and angered (and occasionally amused) by society’s views of adoption, and dealing with the truths of their stories. Those truths can be painful. One of the best gifts for first parents, adoptive parents, and adoptees from reading Amanda’s book may be her reflections on dealing with the painful circumstances that bring children to be adopted. Amanda writes candidly, gracefully, and hopefully about facing difficult truths in adoption, accepting them while not letting them overpower or define, and moving ahead with strength and resilience. “The Declassified Adoptee” deserves a wide audience in the adoption community, among adoptees, first parents, adoptive parents, social workers, adoption researchers, and anyone interested in better understanding what it means to be family.”
–Maureen McCauley Evans, M.A. Former executive director of the Joint Council on International Children’s Services, The Barker Foundation (interim), and Children’s Home Society and Family Services-East; adoption writer/activist at lightofdaystories.wordpress.com.

Pre-Release Review by Marianne Novy, Professor of English at University of Pittsburgh

Pre-Release Review of “The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist”

“Amanda Transue-Woolston’s book The Declassified Adoptee does an expert job of combating some of the widely held beliefs about adoption that stigmatize or otherwise harm many adopted people. Showing what she has learned from a persistent search for her birth records, it is full of love for both her adopted and her first family; she proves that honesty and valuing knowledge about heredity need not be a threat to adoptive parents.  “The forces nature and nurture in my life are not opposed to each other; they are both irreplaceable parts of who I am. . . . My genes–my nature–are not bad. My genes are not a foe to be conquered but rather resources to be nurtured.” Her emphasis on the diversity of adoptees’ experiences is an important observation, well expressed; telling us about her own experiences, she deflates some frequently evoked stereotypes. As a social worker, she argues against the dishonesty of some agencies’ policies as well as that of the closed birth record policy of her state; however, her essay “Am I Adopted At Work?” shows how she appropriately puts her clients’ welfare above discussing her own experience in a professional setting.

This is a wise and readable book, helpful for adoptees or for anyone who has or will have an adoptee as a friend, client, co-worker, or family member.”

–Marianne Novy, Professor of English at the University of Pittsburgh,  author of Reading Adoption: Family and Difference in Fiction and Drama, adoptee, and coordinator of Pittsburgh Consortium for Adoption Studies.

Pre-Release Review by Martha Crawford, LCSW

Pre-Release Review of “The Declassified Adoptee: Essays of an Adoption Activist”

A clear, patient, intelligent voice speaking to all those interested in adoption on negotiating the joys and vicissitudes of life as an adoptee. Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston is not only a cogent and effective advocate speaking on behalf of adult adoptees and their right to be heard in adoption policy, she movingly articulates the complex emotional and psychological realities of forging a self-regarding identity as an adoptee. The Declassified Adoptee also offers a compassionate education for non-adoptees and adoptive parents about how to be a true ally and source of support to the adoptees in their lives. There is something here for every member in the diverse and sometimes fragmented adoption community. I would encourage first family members, adoptive parents, adult adoptees, extended family members and friends as well as all adoption professionals, mental health providers working with adoptees, and prospective adoptive parents to read it, let it touch them and teach them something.
Martha Crawford, LCSW – adoptive parent, psychotherapist, and author of the blog: What A Shrink Thinks

An-Ya and Her Diary Parent & Reader Guide is now available

I am so pleased to announce that the An-Ya and Her Diary Parent & Reader Guide was released on April 6th and is available for purchase.  I had the privilege of authoring the forward of the guide.  By April 9th, the guide made the “Hot New Releases List” on Amazon.com as well as became a Top 20 “Best Seller” on Amazon in the “adoption” category.  You can purchase the novel, An-Ya and Her Diary here, purchase the Parent & Reader Guide on your eReader here, or buy a print copy of the guide here.